And we have limes...and a special dedication

Our little ones have now developed to the size of limes and are doing very well with strong heartbeats and great growth.  We were equally pleased to hear that Mrs M is doing really well with the pregnancy too. 

Our scans are proudly on the fridge where we can stare at them dreamily and  remind ourselves on a challenging day of the rewards of not giving up when things get a little tough.

We would like to dedicate this post to our amazing friend Milsy whom without her love, support and encouragement we would probably not have been brave enough to continue to pursue our dreams to have a family due to the many years of heartache and challenges.

And now for the scan we were so afraid we would never see as we have not progressed past week 10 with a pregnancy before.  Just 2 more sleeps until we make week 12 (not that we're counting)...bring on the 2nd trimester!

Wishing all the other surro families all the best with pursuing (and maintaining) their dreams!!

Magical 8

We have received our 8 week scan and report and are very, very happy with the progress our little bubbles have been making...or should we say raspberries!  Our little bubbles are now the size of raspberries having grown 15mm in the last 2 weeks.  Their heartbeats are now showing 124 and 132 bpm which is stronger than on the last scan.  It was lovely to hear that our wonderful surrogate is doing well with the pregnancy too!!!

Wishing everyone in the surro world much luck and happiness with your journey no matter what stage you are at and we thank you for following our story and supporting us!!!  

A Double Delhi Ashi

We are thrilled to know that we now have two heartbeats in our 2 beautiful little bubbles.

We are so grateful for our amazing surrogate and we feel like the luckiest couple on earth right now!  

Our next scan is due in 2 weeks time...so grow little ones!!

A big thank you to our surrogate family who have once again helped us get through another incredible week.

Have you ever seen a double rainbow?

Have you ever seen a double rainbow?

We just did and it looked like this

Our beautiful surrogate is carrying 2 bubbles measuring 5wks + 3days!

Who would have thought after the storm of our hearts blew through our lives in March with the loss of our first bubble that we would be blessed enough to see a beautiful rainbow...make that a double rainbow today in our surro mummy's belly on Mother's Day!

We thank God for the gift of the special women in our lives today especially our surrogate, the other amazing surrogates and the talented Dr. Shivani and SCI team.

Happy Mothers Day!

We did it!

Just a quick update to let you all know that WE DID IT! 

Well Dr. Shivani, her team and our awesome surrogate did it...mostly!!

That's right...were pregnant!!!

We still can't believe the magic numbers that came with this update...our beta was a whopping 394.45!!!

Now we're really scared AND EXCITED.  Our first scan will be done before the end of the week which will reveal more...maybe alot more.

Thank you to everyone for their well wishes and prayers (obviously every single one of them counted!), but a special thank you to temmytango, Dehli Dreamers, lucylu, New Year Dreaming, Jacaranda, bear, Arya and Paul and lisalu...thank you for reaching out to us when we needed that pat on the back and a nice word.

Another new beginning

We are on the count down for that all important email that has the ability to change our lives (hopefully) as we know it.  We will be out of the 2ww on May 6...and wouldn't that be something to receive such wonderful news of a pregnancy 1 week before Mother's day.

Work, studies and a very long list of things that need doing around the house have been keeping us occupied, but the art of distraction comes at the price of exhaustion!!!

We will be praying for all those waiting on receiving the same hopeful news, those who have recently had this amazing news and those who have achieved what seems the impossible.

Before we forget...a sincere thank you to all those who offered their words of wisdom and a shoulder to lean on over the past few months.  We always thought this was going to be pretty much a solo journey for us, but we are so overwhelmed and grateful to share our journey with all those in the surro world and feel very privileged that you choose to share with us too.

When starting over brings more heartache

This wasn't how we planned on starting our blog to share with the Club Surro, but here we are!  We actually had a plan to begin on a positive note and make our story known once we could safely say that we are pregnant (for the first time) and expecting in awww 6ish months.  However last Saturday brought us back to the reality of the miracle of creating life with an unexpected email from India explaining how our 8 week old fetus was showing no cardiac activity on the scans taken.
We were absolutely devastated and found out that Dr. Shivani and the embryologist were just as shocked over this as us given that our little bubble was making excellent progress each week.  We found ourselves in a daze and numb trying to comprehend that we were going through yet another loss.  Our loss was endured silently as were all our previous losses, yet this time it seemed compounded by the fact that India seemed so far, far away from us here in Australia.

We reached out for the first time to poor Meg and Margarida to try and understand how to cope with this new level of pain and we trawled through countless blogs trying to pick up on how others who have gone before us on this surrogacy journey have coped with the loss of miscarriage without the support of family or friends.  Admittedly we had previously read all your blogs for the heartbreakingly good news not the sad news.  So if anyone can share with us some words of wisdom about how to get through these next few weeks it would be much appreciated.

Our story so far...is that we have been trying to start our family for 10 years now which has financially and emotionally robbed us of some of the best years of our lives.  Testing after the initial 12 months without conceiving revealed that I had a uterine abnormality which 3 different gynies had 3 different opinions about exactly what the abnormality was.  The final conclusion was a dideiphus mullerian abnormality and for good measure menopause was also thrown in at the ripe old age of 34.  This outcome was only known to us in the last 6 months and previously we had a failed IVF attempt and had numerous unconfirmed miscarriages over the years.
We made a decision to abandoned our 3 years spent waiting to be allocated a child through international adoption before we started our IVF treatment as that seemed to be going no-where fast.
The discussion of surrogacy came up once again as this really now is our last shot at becoming parents.  So in September last year we approached SCI and decided to give surrogacy shot.  We were in India in January this year and had the privileged of meeting the talented Dr. Shivani and her team and they have been in our hearts and minds everyday since.  So we transferred 4 embryos and considered ourselves very, very lucky to have 1 stay with us for 8 weeks.

So now with slightly more fragile hearts we hope to try again very soon with some of our frozen embies.  So now we hope and pray that for 'a Dehli Ashi - which translates to a Dehli Blessing or Miracle'.
Thank you to everyone for sharing a special piece of your private lives with others like us...as this is the only place we can go for information, reassurances, to have a laugh and a cry with all things surrogacy and infertility related and where others are actually walking in the same shoes and experiencing the same personal stories.